Two tips to grow your passion in love

In new love passion is easy. Poor communication hasn’t hurt mates much yet.

In long-time love, accumulated hurts from poor communication can become golden roads to deeper love and greater passion if you…

1. Stay physically connected
2. Express thanks multiple times daily

Here’s how.

1. Stay physically connected by touch, often, in many different ways. Don’t just say hello or goodbye: hug each other, kiss each other. Don’t just talk to your mate. While talking, hold hands or cuddle while just leaning on a counter or sitting on the couch. When making love, don’t think of it as sex. Rather, imagine it’s full body skin and guts loving, like a connection massage to every nerve in both your bodies. Touch stimulates endorphins, thereby soothing anxiety, lifting depression, and clearing the mind. When you encounter resistance to touching, work yourself through it by this exercise: a) shake yourself up, b) sag like a limp rag, c) tighten every muscle in your body, d) let go and sway. Then let go again under your partner’s loving touch.

2. Express thanks for everything you can think of. Thank your mate taking time out to listen. Thank for bringing up a problem to be solved together. Thank for errands done, chores accomplished. Thank for offers to do chores or favors and good intentions even when things derail. Thank for positive attributes. Thank for the good things in life you have together. And take time now and then by physically lifting your arms straight up in a “V” for victory, celebrating from head to toe the good things between you.And check out this month’s Love Tweats at   DrSharonSays on Twitter.

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